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AZ, I think that the new definition of insanity is regurgitating the same quote over and over and spewing the same empty arguments in front of the same audience and expecting to get different results. I don’t buy your side of it because it is bogus. I’ve already explained that 3-4% annual growth is a fabricated and grossly exaggerated number.
The reason that this theory has taken hold, where other theories failed, is because the “blame” given by the theory seems morally acceptable to us. It seems like there is no harm caused by saying that boys should be going out with girls their own age, so we want to accept that this will solve the problem. But if we say (for example) that the problem is that boys have a much harder vetting process (i.e. many years of long days in yeshiva, and the possession of a “plan” – have you ever seen a girl with a plan?) than girls do (half days in sem for a coupla months – who can’t handle that?), that theory is far more difficult to digest. It lays the blame at the feet of a failed system – that we have no way to repair. Which reason is more culpable? The weak will choose yours.
Now please, take it somewhere else. I’ve had enough of this banter.