AZ –
you once again contradict yourself and make no sense.
First you say – I haven’t once suggested that boys start going out earlier and certainly not earlier than they are ready.
Then only 3 lines later you say – The discusion about boys 21.5 and girls 20 is a long term goal…
OK – so lets make up our minds here. Do we want to say a recommended age (with exceptions – but this is the general age)? Or do we want to say that it’s when ever a boy is ready? YOU CAN’T DO BOTH! It doesn’t make sense to say, 21.5 but only if they are ready. If they are ready then it has nothing to do with how old they are. If it’s strictly when they are ready then there is no room for an age.