“No one said that the greatness of women is at odds with the Torah “
Perhaps I misunderstood, but what I inferred (possibly incorrectly) was that the LEADERSHIP ability of a woman in her household is at odds with the Torayh. I was pointing out cases that the Torah specifies to teach us that sometimes the ezer must be k’negdo in order for the home (and marriage) to work properly. The Torah surely was not putting up these examples as “gnai” to the women mentioned.