my point as others have made if there is no agreement, or compromise possible, one has to be able to pull rank, this isn’t something anyone can argue with otherwise a lot of disagreements would never be finalized.
If a couple cannot come to some sort of compromise — even on a major issue — to the point where one has to “pull rank” and force the other to do something against their will, then that is a sign that there is something troubling in the marriage. And forcing the wife (or husband, for that matter) into a major decision against their will will only cause resentment and further deteriorate shalom bayis.
I highly doubt that that is what the Torah wants.
The Wolf