I think this thread is becoming rather pointless. What’s a difference who should listen and obey whom, sometimes the wife’s opinion is correct and sometimes the husband’s. If everyone understands their tafkid in life, be they a man or woman and there’s mutual respect and honesty in the marriage then it will be sholom v’shalvah.
One thing I can guarantee you, I nor any frum woman will wash their husbands feet.