clearheaded:
“As to who rules over whom, as I continue to mention that is mekom (in this case not only place, but time as well) minhag.”
Absolutely incorrect. It isn’t minhug hamokem, as it is an EXPLICIT pasuk in the Torah (with associated meforshim) that the husband rules his wife.
“Therefore if there would be a king in England he would rule over his queen equaly as his queen rules over him. In other words, they are both figureheads and on equal footing.”
Incorrect again. Today they are just figureheads. But when they had actual power, and there was both a King and Queen of England, the King had absolute power over the Queen. (Sometimes he would even behead her on a whim. Look at English history.) This was typical of secular Kingdoms. But in any event, I’m talking about Torah law.