“Equality of position”
Shma benie mussar uvicha v’al titosh Torah’s imecha. One should listen to the father as he is the authority in the house. And the mother is the one that gives over the Torah’s hashkafas which one should adhere to. Hashkafas shape the family. Clearly, the women in the house has subtle, but tremendous power in influencing her husband and family in different ways. The mother is the influence in the house.
It is self understood that within each role that the wife and husband need to fulfill there is inequality. That’s precisely what the idea of different roles mean -that the husband fulfill his roles and the wife hers.
I agree with you plaid, but not on the inequality of position as only in leadership, rather on inequalities of positions that each, the husband and wife have.