IOW, you can’t make the blanket statement that the man has to be the authority and the wife submissive for it to be a healthy marriage. Every marriage is different and one model does not work for all couples.
This is ex-clearheaded- I changed my posting name and all the previous posts under the name clearheaded changed as well.
Wolf, I definitely agree with you. In reality each couple has a different type of relationship and if it works for them and they have sholom bayis – that’s the ikkur.
Truthfully, while some things are a given that I yield to my husband wishes, we do mutually share a marriage where opinions are usually equally considered.
But for those who see things in black and white (it doesn’t mean they live that way- they just see it like that), then the husband is the authority.