i agree shidduchim shouldnt be treated as a “business deal”.
Then I suppose you don’t people who do shadchanus for a living.
Look, I didn’t have a shadchan. I met Eees on my own. But if that wasn’t an option and I had to obtain the services of a professional, I would certainly think that they should be paid for their time and effort. Why should a shadchan be any different than anyone else providing a service to you?
The Wolf