What expirience do you think a 21 year can have that is not possible for a 17 year old? Please give me examples. My chassidish friends have been through many challenges and experiences, more so than many 21 year olds I know.
You can do marriage without those experiences of college. There’s many different types of experience you know…
When I say prepared for marriage it means
1) knowing what you are getting into
2) have expirience with life challenges: money, abuse, dealing with different types of people, being aware of your surrondings
3) From a phsycological point chassidish girls are aware they are getting married at 17. It’s not like you taking a nice litvish girl in 12th grade who only thinks about tests, fun, and I don’t know what and saying “Hi, want to get engaged tomorow?” they’ve been in shidduchim and redted to people for a few years now. People I know who are chassidish get redted as early as 15. It’s not a new idea. It’s like a kid getting ready for high school, she’s known her entire life at the end of 8th grade is high school, she’s better prepared then a girl who grew up in middle of no where and knew she’d go to school when she got big.
What exactly do you need to preach to them about? Were not stupid you know. I know what type you are talking about, those girls are the ones who csn be found in litvish circles too. The ones who don’t internalize it till they are 30 (if ever)