Boys here smke, your boys have internet. Everyone is struggling with something else. The boys here have never seen a television or a computer in their life.
I’m not trying to put down americans or isrealis, or say that all of them are more mature than the other. It’s just a known fact that a good bunch of american israelis are, up to the point where they will not put together americans and israeli girls of the same age. It’s a different lifestyle that makes people different in different. Americans are one up on israeli’s in many other places.
In any case, I am aware it is the 9 days. My large rant post was not about saying all charedi people don’t go to college, but guess what, a lot don’t. All I’m saying is that you don’t know what goes on over here and neither do I know what goes on there, although I lived in the US for a majority of my life.
Basically, don’t generalize people. Let everyone do what they want, you think college is important- than go. You think it’s going to ruin your ruchniyus- DON’T GO. You are ready to marry at 17- then do it! You want to wait-so WAIT!
Let everyone be themselves sparkly. I understand your reasons, I don’t agree with them, nor think they are fit for me or my friends-but if they are for you and your friends than WAIT, then do whatever it is you want/have to do. I don’t want to put anyone down chas vishalom.
But if my friend is ready to marry at 17, who are you to tell her she ISN’T? You don’t know her, her mentality, her maturity level, where she grew up, and she may have some different values than you-and that’s okay. As long as you accept that because we are a very diverse nation, we all choose different paths, it’s ok.
Rak Ahavah.