Rav Sholom Arush has a book for women on Sholom Bayis and a book for men on Sholom Bayis. In the introduction to each book, he warns the opposite gender not to read the book, but the warning to men is MUCH STRONGER!! In the men’s book, I think he just gives a bracha to women who don’t read it, and in the women’s book, he gives a REALLY strong warning to men not to read it.
Basically, the obligations of a woman to her husband are for HER; they are not meant for him to hold over her head. He has to worry about his obligations to her, not her obligations to him!