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My mother has edited several shidduch resumes for people coming from MO backgrounds who didn’t know what they were doing- generally, they confused it with a job resume. But it’s totally logical, as the whole current construct is totally ridiculous.

Basically, as I think I may have mentioned on the other thread, my mom’s basic guidelines are

-name

-birth date

-current location (and hometown, if different)

-shul (and parents’ shul, if different)

-very basic appearance (hair color, eye color, height, etc)

-educational background

-job (if applicable)

-BASIC family details (don’t go crazy- nobody needs to know the professions of the mechutanim- this is my mom’s pet peeve)

-my mom insists on short paragraphs of what you’re like and what you’re looking for. This is NOT usual in a yeshivish resume, especially of younger people. She prefers it because it gives a direction to go in and because people can’t always be defined by their life choices and origins.

-references (prepare yourself for nobody to call them)

PHOTO NOT NECESSARY. Really, not necessary.

Nice layout- if you can design it nicely and you think it will stand out well in a good way, great, but don’t risk it. Normal Word template is fine.

Elaborate as much as you’d like to, but don’t go crazy overboard.

Remember, at its core the whole system makes no sense. So it’s not worth your time to sit there questioning your sanity at any point- the problem is everyone else. Just swallow your pride and your questions and do it, basically.