Person1: “Also you didn’t say the guy was a great talmid chochem. If he was, I suggest that you reconsider (:”
Actually, I think most of these guys probably knew even less Torah than english!
Personally, when I heard the coffee story, my reaction was, “Why did he faint? If this is something that bothered the girl, knowing that he was destined to become a Talmid Chacham wouldn’t necessarily change that!”
Imho, I think it would be great if my future husband is a Talmid Chacham, but it’s not THE single most important quality for a husband. There are several things that are more important, such as good middos, emotional health, good social skills, my liking him, and my respecting him (and I might have a hard time respecting someone who can’t spell)