I wasn’t talking about an objective maaleh. I meant it’s a maaleh for me.
This wasn’t my original point, but I do think it’s a problem when guys won’t go out with girls their own age or even a few years younger then them (in some cases, they will only go out with girls who are 10 or 20 years younger because they only want someone who is under 40 regardless of their own age). It comes from their wanting to have children, which is a maaleh, but I still don’t think they should be so picky about age. The result is that most of the time, they keep getting older without getting married, so that doesn’t really help them to have children. It’s their choice, but it does bother me.
There are all these campaigns to get guys in their 20’s to go out with older girls, but I don’t think anyone has started a campaign to get guys in their 40’s to go out with girls in their age range.