Person1: “I don’t like the attitude you describe either. I’ve never heard of a guy who asked a girl to travel on a first date. On one case a guy told the shadchan that he couldn’t date because he’s to busy and the girl offered herself to travel.”
Thank you for the validation! I feel better now – I was beginning to feel like I was selfish for expecting the guy to travel the first time. Honestly, I don’t think it’s about selfishness, but my concern about what it shows about the guy. And like I said, I don’t think it’s a good start for a relationship. A girl at Neve once told me that her teacher told her that it’s good for her relationship with her boyfriend for her to allow him to give to her because as Rav Dessler says, giving leads to love.