Those who commented on this post,, have you ever spent time or spoken with a frum young married who is pregnant & with two or more children at home and whose husband is in the army or in reserves?
Well I have spoken and even spent time in Eleazar with such a group of women. Forget about the worry of your spouses safety and security, forget about doing all shopping, cooking, care taking, babysitting and combining this with a part time job – these women are completely overwhelmed, worried, and still the strongest branch on the tree.
My assumption is that most of the commentators did not socialize or even connect with those torah families whose husbands are in the army, so you are CLUELESS!
Two women had the EMT take them to the hospital since the husband did not return for the babies’ birth – many do not have parents, siblings or a support system surrounding them.
Forget about money!!!! that’s an entirely different chapter, its called borrowing and overdrawing from the bank.. Workplace whether its a yeshiva, school or computer job of their husbands pay them a minute amount of money when he is in reserves and will his parnassah be available when he return, is a good question,
During the last Gaza war, a friend’s daughter who lives in Ramot mentioned that during sirens – all the families went down to the shelter. This young lady’s husband was down in Gaza so each time she needed to get downstairs it was carrying 2 toddlers and an infant (Yes, neighbors were helping) & she mentioned that it is far quicker to descend to the shelter when you have a husband to help.
You are TOTALLY unaware of their overwhelming ‘Mesirus Nefesh’ and they are not looking for your sympathy or pity for sure!!