I was responding to what I thought you were saying that there’s no m’kor to asser women gazing at men for pleasure. There is.
Fair enough. I agree with you there is such a Mekor, it is the Pasuk of “Lo Sasuru”.
I was responding to Sparkly and LuL regarding their concern of looking at non-Tznius women. To quote LuL, who is obviously discussing women:
1. I try to live in communities where people dress tzniusly.
2. When I lived in the US, I tried to avoid goyish stores/businesses.
3.In the US, I almost always used the ATM at the bank instead of going inside and dealing with the tellers, since the tellers in my bank didn’t dress tzniusly. I actually found out recently that there is another bank which requires its workers to wear uniforms, so there are Frum people who switched to that bank, I think.
4. When I lived on my own, I deliberately didn’t get Internet at home, even though I needed to use it on a regular basis. I went to Cubicles (a Frum Internet place) instead.
5. I tried to avoid the Public Library, but if I had to use it, I trained myself to turn my eyes so that I could avoid looking at the magazine racks when I walked in.
6. When I’m out, if I see there are people around who aren’t dressed or acting tzniusly, I try to avoid looking at them, and I try to avoid walking behind or near them (I cross the street or walk ahead of them).
7. Now when I’m living in someone’s house who has a lot of inappropriate books and photographs around. I try to avoid reading or looking at any of them.
8. I spend time in the CR rather than going to other sites that could be more problematic :).
9. When I was in the US, I went out of my way to avoid goyish transportation.
10. I got adblocker for the computer that I use. I still have to find out more about filters, and find out if I can get a filter just for my account (since it’s not my computer).
11. If I am looking something up on online, and something inappropriate comes up, I try to either log off of the site right away or cover up the part that’s a problem.
12. I try to stick to sites that I already know are okay and not to just google things or “surf the web”. Obviously, I still need to work on that, hence #11.
13. When I was teaching reading, I went through all the books and colored in the untznius pictures (I had a lot of fun coloring in black shells, etc. 🙂 )