Reply To: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not?

Joseph: “lilmod: “maybe she should open the door for him, but it has to come from her, and that will only happen if he is focused on his obligations to her and not his to her.”

Rambam: “????? ???? ???? ???? ????? ?? ????? ?? ???””

I fail to see the “stira” here. It sounds to me that the Rambam is saying the same thing that I am saying – that it has to come from her. ????? ???? ???? ???? – The Rambam says that she is supposed to be in awe of him, not that he is supposed to place the awe on her.

If he is the kind of person that he is supposed to be and fulfills his obligation to her, then she is much more likely to be in awe of him etc.