Reply To: Who wants to be a Tzadaikes like Rus?

DY -“He should. Although he may need to be makpid on her ability to have children, why should he get involved in a marriage which can easily be filled with ketotah?”

Well I’m talking about someone who doesn’t have any prospects right now and maybe women his own age can’t have kids. Why shouldn’t he be able to marry a much younger person even if there is a possibilty of Ketotoh?

“Good question. I guess there’s some type of sliding scale, with a larger age discrepancy as she gets older (in which case a larger separation in years may not indicate as large a discrepancy in maturity as when she was younger).”

When you write your S’A, I’ll take your opinion into consideration.

“I think that’s way over the top.”

Actually, I think my opinion is very Kulidik. The Gemorrah & S’A imply you would be Oiver right away after Bagress!

“You mention divorcees, but you lump it together with age discrepancy. I wouldn’t.

I also think 22 (as mentioned by a different poster) is a ridiculously low age to be so desperate.”

You seem to imply that your basing your opinion on what’s PC. The S’A is very specific about what a women can decline as a husband, eg. Rayach Rah, etc. No where does it mention divorced as an excuse. And age difference is an excuse only if it’s extreme, eg. Zakain to Yaldah. Like I posted before, Chazal say if your daughter has reached Bagress -Yelech V’yeesaw. This implies hurry up -it’s already late. I know that nowadays girls start around 18 to look to get married- maybe you can be Melamed Zecus that they aren’t ready yet for marriage beforehand-so maybe they aren’t Oiver anything yet. I still said give them 4 more years to be picky before they are Oiver not getting married. But you argued and said -“22 is a ridiculously low age to be so desperate”. I agree with that statement, but that isn’t my issue. My issue is at what point are you being Oiver -not being married. Women and Men have a Chiyuv to be married and you can’t keep pushing it off, year after year, because of your whims, such as age difference. If all that is being offered is something the S’A says you don’t have to marry, so maybe then you are Putter until you get something normal. But if in the eyes of the S’A the guy isn’t a problem, just it’s not PC, eg. age difference, then I can’t possibly see a Heter of why that person isn’t married!