I am a Divorced Guy in his early 40’s and I am constantly set-up (by Shadchanim) with women 8-10 years younger than me. I will tell you that 19 out of 20 women in their early 30’s will not go out with me because of an 8 (or more) year age-gap. In my experience decisions about age-gap are almost never affected by how many guys are or aren’t available. Women are just not comfortable with the age-gap and they would prefer to continue to wait for a guy with a gap of less than 8 years. In my experience every single shidduch that I accepted with a closer age-gap, the girl agreed to go out with me. So the logical conclusion is that the age-gap is HUGE for Bais Yaakov girls. Someone posted about a non-jew. In those situations people meet and date without thinking about marriage necessarily so age gaps can proceed naturally. Large age-gaps are much, much more common in the non-jewish world. I know of many of them through work. They develop naturally. In the shidduch system, however, age is one of the most important factors.
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