Coming from someone who is “working his way back”, I would like to give my input as I feel all of you should hear from a current person on what you would call the other side. Calling kiruv coming back or any other term that creates a separation between the parent and the child’s choice of lifestyle, can actually be a lot more damaging than anybody can imagine (trust me, I know). Whether or not you actually call it that to the child’s face does not change one’s attitude and can still be told by the way you react or talk in general. Kiruv means to bring close not bring back. Being that this thread is for a specific child and not general kiruv, I will only say one general thing. I have personally found that the biggest matters when it comes to kiruv, is acceptance and attitude-of the caregiver and it has to be true and real, you can’t fake it because it won’t work.
