“It seems that the girl you started talking to filled a need, and once that need was met, you were able to tap into your own strengths and let it go, making you free to pursue more appropriate supports.”
That sums it up nicely.
Also about the music, you don’t necessarily have to say anything at all, be it encouragement or criticism. You can just ignore it and not say anything. But you’re right, it is bad, and of course it has an influence. Everything we see, hear, and do influences us.