Reply To: Going off the Derech

smartcookie- my husband went to the RY and said it was very difficult to talk to him. The RY is very tough, and he focused on all the things that show my son is struggling, and how will he ever be ready to go to yeshiva next year? It just sounds like he expects that at this point, my son should be more serious about his learning and better prepared to meet the demands that are required of him. There isn’t much leeway for individuality, or being anything less than up to par. My husband felt that to try to encourage a more supportive reaction from the school would be met with anger perhaps, or defensiveness. It’s like what fareast said, they blame my son and feel he doesn’t fit the mold. He really does need a different yeshiva, but I’m so afraid it’s too late. They already made him feel so badly over there, I’m not sure he’ll want to continue after this. I will never forgive myself for sending him there.