daniella- I didnt mean to imply he wouldnt be successful in life chas vshalom. With Hashem’s help he will fulfill his purpose in life with all the hatzlacha and mazel in the world.
I was just saying how its terrible the way some yeshivas make kids feel like their piles of dirt because their not meant to be in kollel.
Obviously i dont know the exact situation over here, but based on what WOW has written, it seems that something has been hindering his personality growth and a confidence issue seems to be the most likely cause of it. Of course he can overcome this nisayon but saying that plenty of people have been in his situation and overcome it is not really saying much. I was in a situation very simialar to his, and it took years for me to work through the emotional baggage it left on me. Thank god i met the right people who were able to influence and help me to become the person i am today. But looking back, the most important thing i did was getting a degree and working. It proved to me that i can be successful after years of failing in the yeshiva system. I will daven that he has an easier time then i did adjusting to life after yeshiva