I agree with you, except your suggestion leaves us with two details to be worked out
– I am sure everyone understands one can’t do it in a homogeneous community without expecting people to protect their identity and fight back
– are you so sure the boy would automatically (magically?) become a happy and fulfilled adult if only he got “permission” (who has to give him permission?) to “enjoy” his lack of observance and/or belief? Countless people abandon the religious lifestyle, where is the need to hurt, disrespect, manipulate others?