Write or wrong: You are missing a third possibility. One can experience the outside world and still understand what ideas from that world are antithetical to Judaism. I know of someone who would tell their kids, whenever they were watching a movie, what points in the movie contradict Halachah and Torah ideals. I know that that’s not the Derech you want for yourself or your kids, and it’s definitely a Derech that a lot of people think is very dangerous, but at this moment it seems to be the best-case-scenario Derech for your son.
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