Sam2,
I wasn’t referring to this particular situation. Maybe if someone feels that they’re uncomfortable in a particular community, they should move.
The implication, though, as you picked up, wass that somehow the further to the right you lean, the less nizhar you are in hilchos loshon hora. That’s patently ridiculous.
DY: It has nothing to do with “the right”, CV. It depends how insular the community is. The more insular the community, the more of a “Shanda” it becomes when someone leaves, whether it is an Amish, a Kibbutznik or someone from Kiryas Yoel. Nothing to do with religion. Furthermore, the more insular the community, the more a Shanda affects the remainder of the family, whether it is Shunning, blacklisting or rejection of shidduchim.