unfortunately I can’t offer you any guarantees; what I will say is that in most of the cases I’ve been involved with (a lot more than just one)the parents have all been faced with the same situation,(“extremely smart, controlling and manipulative” among other things) the details may differ slightly but the overall situation is the same; And in the overwhelming majority of cases the parent/child relationship has significantly improved in a relatively short amount of time. I’m not saying all these kids end up becoming frum, some do some don’t. My son for example is not frum at all…(yet). But the atmosphere in the house and the relationship is 1000 percent better than it was.
What is really needed from you right now is to tender your resignation of being a CONTROLLING PARENT and to take up a new role: BEING HIS BIGGEST FAN!