Hello, sorry I haven’t checked in for a while. I noticed that you are having some difficulty fully committing to TP. Firstly, you should know that because the method is a little radical for most of us, it takes time get accustomed. Let me reassure you, however, that when done correctly it is guaranteed to have positive results. The faster you get with the program the faster you will see these results.
Second, it seems your husband is still not on board, have him speak directly with Avi ASAP. If your husband “just wants him out of the house” your son’s feelings that “you hate him” will continue and hinder any progress you are trying to make.
Third, I disagree with the statement you made that “he has to go down before he can come up”. With TP you can stop his downward spiral fairly quickly. If it seems he’s getting worse after starting TP, what is more probably happening is the following. When first implementing TP a child will notice the changes in the way you are treating him and he will want to test your actions to see if they are sincere. If you do not follow through he will understand that you don’t REALLY accept him and that you’re just trying to manipulate him. (not good)
Fourth, I understand your need for support and that that is why you are here; BUT, although some of the advice given here is great advice much of it conflicts with TP and will only delay its affect. (sorry aries) 🙂
I will tell you once again; I have tried any and all methods that were presented to me from a wide range of professionals over a LONG period of time. The ONLY one that worked for me was TP.
I will try to help you if I can, but you have access to the master, I am merely a student. Keep in touch with Avi, HAVE YOUR HUSBAND TALK TO HIM, read the book MANY times, most of all, NEVER give up.