I’m sorry to stik in my 2cents here but jeans should really be your leasr problem.. t-shirt with photo is another story..
My sons wearing $80 (sale price) jeans a long time. although BH he is wearing white polos.. The rest of my boys do not leav the house without a hat and jacket..
and I have a neighbor who is a ruv in a shul-chassidish-
whos son is walking around in blue jeans and colored polos and t-shirts.. not really a pride to the family.
but I see he lives at home and also has ‘different’ friends and an unacceptable schedule– there are so many of us suffering!
My suggestion to you is to take ONE system and give it your all.
try not to get sidetracked by ‘others’.
tell yourself you will do this system lets say 2 months.. then push maybe another 2 months and see if anything moved.
at least you know you really gave the TP system a good try.
btw- all my boys do thir own laundry from bar mizva age and up!
so there is really nothing wrong in having him do his own laundry.
they change their own linen and leave it to me to wash- perfectly acceptable.. Now when they got/get married they really get a break!
GOOD LUCK and keep us posted.