Reply To: Going off the Derech

I can relate to some of Daniela’s questions, and have also wondered how anyone can guarrantee that this technique will work with my child. And what does that mean, ‘it will work’? You mean, it will bring him back to the derech? If it only means to restore our relationship, then I don’t believe I need TP to do that. I think the reason TP is so extreme is bc in situations where there was extreme trauma, then an extreme approach may be what’s needed to counter-balance it. The point about treating kids as ‘xerox copies’ has also bothered me. This approach doesn’t seem to be tailor made to each child, but rather an ‘across the board’ approach. Yet each child had a different experience and has a different make up. I’m assuming the answer would be that a kid going OTD, is a reaction to trauma and ‘trauma is trauma’, but I’m not sure I’d agree with that. Can anyone clarify?