Reply To: Going off the Derech

interjection-I agree with everything you said. But truthfully, my husband and I have pulled back a great deal. We act towards him the same, in his ripped blue jeans, long hair, smoking etc than we did in his black suit and hat. Yet he continues to do things that are ‘defiant’. I can definitely understand needing space to ‘find oneself’, but how far does one have to travel? Down the path of drugs? Crime (Chas v’Shalom)? There should be certain limits that are irrespective of Yiddishkeit, like “it’s illegal!”. You’re right the more he feels our expectations, the further he will feel compelled to travel. So we are basically pretty quiet about his lifestyle. I just hope the road he travels…brings him back home…