Reply To: Going off the Derech

Imaofthree-I really don’t want to throw him out into the streets, but like you said, I am really angry that he is destroying the atmosphere in my home..both directly by being mechalel Shabbos, and indirectly, by destroying our shalom bayis. Even family that we’ve had come visit from the States (who aren’t religious), respect our lifestyle and are Shomer Shabbos with us when they come. But my own son….

aries2756/interjection-we really don’t want to throw our son out into the streets, but we did have a little discussion about him getting a job and earning the money needed to get his own apartment where he can live the lifestyle he wants without any hinderence. Is that okay? The only problem is that sometimes, when he gets me reaaally angry, I actually think that I don’t care what he does. Let him be mechalel Shabbos, get in trouble, just don’t do it in my home. But when we have good moments, I realize how much I love and miss him, and I don’t want him to do worse things or get into trouble, G-d forbid. That’s when I think he should stay with us for as long as possible so that, MAYBE, he will start to miss us and feel our love for him.