You don’t have to wait. You win by telling YOURSELF that you are a fantastic mother. That is why I keep telling you to nourish YOURSELF, by going to a shiur for chizzuk, doing a hobby, going out with your husband, etc. whatever you need. Don’t wait for your son’s approval. He will love and approve of you eventually but you first have to love and approve of YOURSELF. Don’t let him control your emotions.
You are his MOTHER. not his friend. always remember that.