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Parents tend to forget that as much as they give their everything to their children, a parent can only offer direction. A parent does all he can to plant within his child feel-good feelings for doing right, but the parent needs to remember that a child is not a puppet. All people, our children included(!), were created with their own minds and free will and sometimes a child expresses his own free-will by making choices that are extremely painful for the parent. The parents have to realize that if they are doing all they can to give positive messages to their children, it is not their fault when the child misinterprets it according to his own mind. Teenagers’ minds are immature and they cannot think past the immediate future. He will make mistakes thinking they won’t hurt him in the long run, but it will take until his mind further develops that he realizes that he needs to take responsibility for his own life.