Reply To: Going off the Derech

Derech HaMelech and Aries2756-I value what you both say, and have gotten tremendous chizuk from both of you. Post more!

Imaofthree-How is it going you ask? The bad news is that a few of the kids from his chevra were not serious about the school they attend together (what a surprise!), so when they decided to take a few vacation days, they all joined in and now the school cancelled the bus, and doesn’t really want them back. Truthfully, my son was the most upset, and really got upset with his friends. So he spoke to the Rabbi, and the kids are trying to appeal their decision, and basically, re-apply as ‘more serious’ kids. If that doesn’t work out, I don’t know what we’ll do, bc he’s basically back to staying out all night, with little to no conversation with us, and sleeping all day. I think me and my husband are dealing with things a little better. We already went through the initial shock of all this, and are not getting too bent out of shape over these other things. Although the new tsarros is that he’s hanging out with girls. If it gets too close to my house, I don’t know how my husband (or me, for that matter) will handle it. As it is, he doesn’t hide anything he does, whether it’s hanging out with ripped jeans, earring and girlie t-shirts, smoking on Shabbos, so why should girls be any different? Just call us Mr. and Mrs. Doormat, bc that’s about how we feel right now.

Sorry, you asked………