Reply To: Going off the Derech

smc-Thanks for the story, point taken. I’m just wondering if it’s easier for an ‘opposite sex parent’ to give that sort of reaction to their child. It seems so much easier for me to react this way to my son than for my husband, but I will tell him this story. Funny thing is, when I ask my son who he trusts, he always says me. But that doesn’t stop him from hurting me. But mostly I am hurting bc I see him doing things that hurt himself. Thanks for your post and your well wishes. I’m surprised to see that there are such caring people who are still following this painful chapter of my life….I’m still hoping that it will have a happy ending.

a mamin-nice to hear from you! Still going through ups and downs. I can’t believe it’s been over a year since my original post, and my son still seems so far from coming back. But it’s more obvious to me that he first needs to heal his inner pain before he’d be able to come back. Right now the focus is completely on healing, and Baruch Hashem, he is seeing someone.

Every once in a while, I see a glimmer of hope by some comment he’ll make. But it’s not frequent. I only hope he continues to have the desire to help himself, and that he matures enough so that he can finally take off these rebellious ‘glasses’ and see how much we really love him…

Thanks for thinking of me!