flatbusher – You sounded like you were insulted by what I wrote, and I’ve been racking my brains to figure out why. I think I finally “chapped”. When I made that comment about Gehinnom, did you think I meant you chas v’shalom:?! Such a thing never occurred to me!!! I was referring to people who do something assur and think it’s okay because others do it. In your case, it never occurred to me that you were doing something “assur”!!! So it never occurred to me you would think I was talking about you!!!
I was simply making the point that the fact that other people do things is not the reason it’s okay. I just took it for granted that you had asked a sheilah and/or knew it was totally “muttar”.
Maybe it seems obvious that that is how my words would be taken, but it really hadn’t occurred to me in a million years (as one of the moderators pointed out previously, maybe I am a bit naive, Boruch Hashem!) In any case, if that is how you took it, I sincerely apologize!!! And I hope you are moichel. I would never have written it if I had had a “hava amina” that it would be taken that way!!!