In the course of a conversation with a teacher regarding someone he had set me up with, I mentioned that I would want to marry someone who considers me more important than his learning and his response was, “He has you and he has his learning; why should one be more important than the other.” I found that really offensive.
My Chavrusa was talking to my Rosh Yeshiva shlit”a about marriage before his chasunah, and during the discussion he asked: “What should I do if I get a call in the middle of Seder, and its my wife calling me to come kill a spider thats scaring her?”
The Rosh Yeshiva answered: “You must make her feel that you are there for her, and will always be available for her if she needs you. She should also be Machsiv Toirah enough that she knows that insignificant things like spiders [regardless of how petrified she may be] are not important enough to disturb your learning.”