I was raised with the concept of sticks & stones may break my bones but names will never harm me. People never want to accept responsibility for their action and so blame others. It happens all the time at work, I get blamed for something I had no control over. As long as it doesn’t effect my salary or my personnel record I just ignore it.
thebabbler I don’t ever read a whole thread all I do is look at the heading and the last few post and comment so of course I don’t get all the details. I also realize it’s very difficult to forget the injustice done by your ex but you must. After World War II thousand of Jews who lived through horrors of the concentration camps came to America. Those who choose not to dwell on the past were successful in building new lives and built the Jewish communities that we have today. Those who choose to dwell in the pass never married or accomplished much. You need to move on to the next stage of your life. I am not a marriage counselor, therapist or shrink in fact at work I mostly analyze figures (numbers) and have minimal interaction with people so I might not be the best person to give you advise.