“I meant no, because she doesn’t know it’s an aveirah, she thinks it’s a chumra which the right wingers are claiming is obligatory.”
I was referring to people who do know, such as any Bais Yaakov graduate and any girl who attended just about any Orthodox Seminary.
“Either that, or struggles with her yetzer hora.
Either way, she doesn’t lose the status of amisecha, unlike a m’challel Shabbos b’farhesya.”
From the Chafetz Chaim, I quoted I don’t see why there would be a difference between somoene wearing a short skirt vs. someone who is mechalel Shabbos. He refers to someone who is over on something that everyone knows is assur. Adraba, she would be more likely to fit in that category. Everyone in her circles knows that it’s assur to wear short skirts, but in the circles that the not-Frum guy lives in, people don’t know that you are not allowed to be mechalel Shabbos.
What might keep her in the category of “amisecha” is the fact that she is doing it out of “taivah” not in order to rebel against Hashem. The same is true of the “mechalel Shabbos.”
So he is no worse than her, and maybe even better.