Little Froggie – I am really surprised by you. I am really having trouble understanding why you don’t realize that this was Motzi Shem Ra. Maybe you have been fooling me all this time by pretending to be smarter than you are, but I don’t see how that is possible. I have always respected your intelligent and insight and I can’t imagine that was a front. I think maybe it’s just because you are such a nice person that you can’t imagine that someone did something wrong so you are trying to come up with convuluted reasons to explain how this was not Motzi Shem Ra.
I just reread your post. You wrote as follows:
“As long as I’m not saying anything derogatory “those people are crazy”, there’s no forbidden speech on saying possible theories why someone did what SOMEONE ELSE said he did.”
The whole point was that he did say something derogatory. He said that the boy was dating not in order to get married. That is derogatory. That is what made it Motzi Shem Ra. That is what I have been referring to the whole time. Did you miss that? Did you think that I was talking about something else? Also, if you thought that nothing derogatory was said, why didn’t you say that in the first place instead of coming up with far-fetched reasons as to why it’s not MSR (like saying you know for certain that she won’t believe him)?