Joseph – There used to be a time when Kiruv meant providing answers. I hear that today what people are looking for is someone who care, notices them, and respects them. Based on that I hear that the approach of kiruv today has changed.
The answer to your question seems to require knowing what these adults are lacking. Kids-at-risk are usually the results of bad (sometimes traumatic) experiences that they had growing up in our frum society. I’m told the best approach to bring them back is acceptance and a lot of love. The question is whether these adults are struggling with the same issues or if they are struggling from not being able to ask hard questions that trouble them. If the latter then we need to start programs that deal with difficult questions on life and Yiddishkeit. The truth is that these programs are already out there. It could be that they need more support and advertisement.
Furthermore, it seems to me that we should all be taking tochacha from what’s happening around us and look inwardly to determine what we ourselves are lacking. The greater and more refine we become the more hashpa we will naturally have on others. I think we are lacking role models today.
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