Mod-80, I want my kids to respect my authority, not fear my authority. I was raised with the same principle.
Chutzpah doesn’t need a spank. Its often the kids who get spanked the most who shouldn’t be.
I’ve heard many people who say “Oh I wait to calm down until I spank” which means that if the child is old enough to understand delayed consequences, there is no reason to spank as there are many other forms of discipline that will work. And if you wait but they can’t understand delayed discipline, then there is surely no reason to spank. If you spank right away, its often more a temper tantrum on the parents part than anything else.