DY -“Taking out from the Shulchan Aruch that he holds its not a chiyuv is a huge stretch. ??”? certainly doesn’t seem to hold that way (cf. ??? ????, however, see ???? ?????).”
That’s one of the reasons that there is a Shidduch crisis; because some “so-called” Rabbis tell everyone that women don’t have a Chiyuv to get married! Paskining like the ??? ???? that brings down only one Shitta, that says it’s only an Eitza Tova for women to get married is wrong! Most hold it’s a Chiyuv! Because – Halachah K’rabbim!