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Joseph, by “super-friendlyl,” I mean she speaks & confides in the Rabbi all the time. The Rabbi initially insisted he knew I was controlling & abusive because my wife has been telling him this for over 20 years. It’s the same complaint over & over. BTW, i never knew about this. The Rabbi said he gave my wife a book on controlling & my wife said “it described me to a T; to a T.” Of course, it was nonsense because they had no examples. That’s what i meant by “super-friendly.” And we’re both active volunteers in our shul; and the Rabbi & our kids are same ages, etc… etc…