“Nishtdayngesheft, wanting to remain married isn’t an example of controlling someone. Shulchan Aruch recognizes many cases where Halacha denies a spouse’s request to divorce.”
Joe, I think Nisht was saying this based on reading all of Lenny’s posts carefully. I also have the same feeling as him. He did not make this comment based on the fact that Lenny wants to remain married (since he did not feel this way after reading the initial post, but only after other posts).
Also, I’m not an expert on the topic, but I have never heard of a case in which one spouse wanted to get divorced, and the Beis Din would not let them (after going through marriage therapy and trying to work things out). I think that is probably extremely unusual, especially if it’s the wife who wants the divorce.