Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Lilmod, you said “I know tons of people who are divorced and I have not heard of a single person who wanted to get divorced but was not allowed to.” Any cases like mine? where the wife wanted the divorce and the husband didn’t? And the wife didn’t have halachic grounds for the divorce? It sounds to me like you’re talking civil court & not a Beis Din. On the other hand, our Rabbi suggested my wife just get a civil divorce; have me moved out of our house; then go the beis din, then the underlying reasons wouldn’t matter. The Beis Din would be forced to order me to provide a Get, i.e., civilly divorced and not living together. But you’re saying without a civil divorce, just the wife can go to a beis din & demand a Get?