Lenny, I thought that I made it clear that I have no way of knowing. I was simply trying to say that it may be a possibility, and one that it may be kidai to be prepared for.
I hope that I didn’t come across as too harsh – I was trying very hard not to, but when I had to respond to other posters, I ended up having to come across stronger than I had wanted to.
There is another point that I was thinking about as I read your last post. If there are things that your wife is upset about, whether or not you think that her complaints are legitimate, it is kidai to listen to her and show her that you respect her feelings and that you would like to try to address them if you can.
Whether or not you consider her complaints to be legitimate is irrelevant – the fact is that she feels this way, and a feeling can’t be illegitimate. Having a relationship with someone means listening to her feelings and complaint and showing her that you care and that you respect her feelings. I think I saw the video that Meno mentioned on Aish.com (probably a very abridged version) and I think that was the point of it (althought when I watched it, I had thought it was just meant to be humorous). It probably is kidai for you to watch it. Meno is a very smart man, and I would take his advice seriously.